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Neuroscience in the Consulting Room: Enhancing the Impact of Couples Therapy

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Outline

  • Overview of couple’s therapy
    • Recognizing EFT in therapy
    • Using a clear, systematic approaches to get the best outcomes - Attachment Theory
  • Experiencing couple’s therapy: discover how relationships affect the brain with Daniel Siegel
    • Exposure to a recorded couple’s therapy session
    • Discussion of interventions and change processes with Dan Siegel
    • Intervention exercises to be completed by participants
  • Concluding remarks with Sue Johnson and Daniel Siegel
    • Explaining client vulnerabilities and what it means for treatment
    • Techniques to help couples change and grow through each other for a better sense of self

Objectives

  1. Discover how to “read” clients’ facial and body language as outward signs of their brain function and emotional processing.
  2. Discover how to use this knowledge to select and time interventions more effectively.
  3. Discover how to make your interventions more efficient by tapping into the processes of relational regulation.
  4. Discover how to determine when clients can’t self-soothe or access higher brain functions and intervene accordingly.

Copyright : 03/24/2017

Couples on the Brink: When Is Enough Enough?

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Outline

  1. Course of Treatment
    1. Step One
      1. Join with the Most Distant Partner
      2. Partners’ Positions Translate into Their Unique Dance
      3. Dance as the System Needing Treatment

 

  1. Join Through the Therapist’s “Truth”
    1. Confront the stable partner
    2. Preconditions for Intimacy
    3. Form alliances with each partner
    4. Step Two
      1. Negotiate a 3-4 Month Contract
      2. Base this on 180 degree Turnaround in Stable Partner
    5. Step Three
      1. Produce Palpable Change in the Stable Partner
  2. Three Phases of Treatment
    1. Waking Up
    2. Inner Child Work
    3. Learned Connection
  3. Using Therapeutic Intimacy
    1. Creating Alliance
    2. Appropriate Self Disclosure
    3. Working with Grandiosity
  4. Intimacy as a Spiritual Practice
    1. First and Second Consciousness
    2. Adaptive Child vs Functional Adult
    3. How Couples Mutually Trigger Their Positions
  5. Relational Recovery
    1. How to Bring the Functional Adult into Relationship
    2. Bottom Up and Top Down Healing
  6. Five Losing Strategies of The Adaptive Child
    1. Process of Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair
    2. Being Right, Controlling the Partner, Unbridled Self-Expression
    3. Retaliation, and Withdrawal
  7. The Relational Grid
    1. Self-esteem
    2. Grandiosity and Toxic Shame
    3. Full-Respect Living
    4. Boundaries
    5. Letter to the Adaptive Child
    6. How to Go After What You Want
    7. Improving Communication
  8. The Feedback Wheel
    1. Acknowledgement
    2. Experience
    3. Imaginings
    4. Feelings
    5. Desires
    6. Listening and Responding
    7. Teach the Couple to Hold Reality Lightly
    8. Develop Curiosity
    9. Respond with Generosity
    10. Cherish What You Have

Objectives

  • Focus on how to quickly get to the heart of the matter and articulate the couple’s stuckness, then reawaken warmth and closeness, helping them remember love and back off the ledge if possible
  • Focus on what to do when one partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • Focus on what to do when your own deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
  • Focus on how to proceed when addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future or when there’s been betrayal or infidelity

Copyright : 03/25/2017

Creating Secure Connection in Couples Therapy: An Emotionally Focused Approach

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Outline

  1. Overview of EFT
    1. EFT has 3 Stages and 9 Steps
    2. Goal:  To help Couples Become Aware of Negative Interactional Patterns
    3. Three Elements Include:  Attachment, Systemic View, Focus on Emotions
  2. 5 Basic Moves of EFT
    1. Reflect and Distill Present Process
    2. Unfold Deeper or New Emotions
    3. Turn New Experience into new Steps/signals to partner
    4. Explore How Each Experiences the New Steps
    5. Integrate and Validate
    6. Core Assumptions of EFT
  3. EFT Review of Pertinent Research
    1. Demonstrates 90% Increase in Satisfaction
    2. EFT Studied with fMRI
  4. EFT Focuses on Attachment and Bonding
    1. Interactional Patterns Reflect Attachment Styles
    2. Differentiating Primary and Secondary Emotions
    3. Insecurity Leads to Predictable Reactions
  5. Three Forms of Attachment Insecurity
    1. Anxious
    2. Avoidant
    3. Chaotic
  6. Treatment
    1. Involves Limbic Resonance, Regulation, and Revision
    2. Reciprocal Cycles Between Partners
  7. EFT Interventions Toward Developing Secure Attachments
    1. Intrapsychic
    2. Interpersonal
    3. Interactional Patterns
    4. 7 Steps of Intervention
  8. Stages of EFT
    1. De-escalation
    2. Re-structure the Bond
    3. Consolidation

Objectives

  • Discover how to differentiate each partner’s emotions in order to contain reactive emotion and evoke vulnerabilities
  • Discover how to recognize and assess each partner’s role in destructive patterns of interaction
  • Discover how to restructure couples’ negative patterns and stay in process when they become emotionally activated
  • Discover how to use voice, reflection, and validation to help partners share their deepest vulnerabilities

Copyright : 03/24/2017

Addiction Treatment and Couples Therapy: Using Emotionally Focused Therapy to Strengthen Sobriety

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Outline

  1. The Medical Model and Addiction
    1. Key Figures in Modern Treatment
  2. Emotion Focused Therapy
    1. Emotion Focused Therapy for PTSD
    2. Definition of Trauma
    3. The Power of Treating Trauma Within the Context of the Couple Relationship
  3. Neuroplasticity and Change
    1. Importance of Heightened Emotion in Change
    2. How Emotion is More Powerful than Cognition
  4. Adverse Childhood Experiences
    1. Adverse Childhood Experiences and Addiction
    2. Attachment and Trauma is Key to Working with Addiction
    3. Importance of Context in a Person’s Life
  5. Cycle of Trauma Attachment and Addiction
    1. How the Couple System Hijacks Attachment Fluidity
    2. The Relationship between Attachment and Emotion in Systemic Change
    3. How Partner’s Stress Strategies Become the Other Partner’s Negative Trigger
  6. The Process of EFT
    1. Five Basic Moves of EFT
    2. Addressing the Addiction through Attachment Style
    3. Experientially Engage Client with the Underlying Emotion that Addiction Regulates

Objectives

  • Discover how to use micro-tracking to identify and make explicit the rigid negative attachment-based patterns that perpetuate relational distress in addictive relationships
  • Discover how to systematically engage emotion to create bonding moments that support the addict in reaching out to their partner rather than their substance/behavior of choice
  • Discover how to apply powerful attachment-based interventions as an effective alternative to the familiar modes of confronting denial that often fail and trigger relapse

Copyright : 03/25/2017

BONUS: Attachment and the Dance of Sex: Integrating Couples and Sex Therapy

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Objectives

  • Show how attachment science offers a new understanding of sexuality
  • Explain how the emotional sanctuary of committed relationships can help partners discover their distinctive sexual signature
  • Explore optimal lovemaking

Copyright : 03/19/2016

BONUS: The Rules of the New Monogamy: The Changing Face of Committed Relationships

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Outline

  1. Creating the New Monogamy Agreement
    1. The Explict and Implicit Agreement
    2. Renegotiating Rules of Monogamy Through Developmental Stages
    3. The Momogamy Continuum
    4. Thoughts
    5. Fantasy
    6. Desires
    7. Arousal
    8. Flirtation
    9. Emotions
    10. Action
    11. Connection
    12. Sex
    13. Love
    14. Detachment
  2. The New Normal
    1. Eroticism and Companionship
    2. What Couples Want May Be Changing
  3. Components of an Affair
    1. The Outside Emotional Relationship
    2. The Dishonesty
    3. The Sexual Relationship
  4. Steps in Recovery
    1. Creating Understanding
    2. Renegotiate Agreements
    3. Initiate Erotic Recovery
    4. Empathy in Recovery
  5. Two Elements in Couple Relationships
    1. Business of Relationship
    2. Sexual Aspects
  6. Create A New Vision of The Relationship
    1. Through Exploration and Discussion with Couples
    2. Outline for Both the New Vision of the Future
    3. Creating Agreement over Accepted Behaviors

Objectives

  • Explore how to help clients develop a code of integrity that will define their monogamy and develop their own unique shared definition of honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
  • Explore how to coach clients on negotiating flexible monogamy arrangements as well as how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity
  • Explore why open marriages work for some and fail for others—and how to identify the early problem signs and help couples recover when the arrangement isn’t working

Copyright : 03/24/2017