Full Course Description
Introduction: How Desire is Lost & Found
This training, which includes 6 hours of live training with real demonstration videos from real couples therapy sessions, explores how lack of desire creates sexless and low sex relationships and gives concrete interventions to treat desire challenges, lack of desire and desire discrepancies using a contemporary treatment model developed by Dr. Tammy Nelson, using Integrative Sex and Couples therapy.
More than 80% of men and women report a lack of satisfaction in their sex lives at some point in their relationship. All therapists need to learn sex therapy techniques along with relationship therapy interventions in order to have the treatment strategies they need to help their clients with these problem areas.
Diminished or postponed pleasure affects all relationships at some point in the developmental stages of committed partnership. Sexual dysfunction and relationship dissatisfaction happens in straight, gay and open or traditionally monogamous relationships. Marriages that suffer from low sex or no sex times can feel bereft of intimacy and lead to resentment, separation and even divorce.
This training will focus on four stages of treatment, 1) Reviving Desire 2) Reframing Desire, 3) Restoring Desire and 4) Recreating Desire.
Within each of these four STAGES of treatment, Stage One. Reviving Desire, Stage Two, Reframing Desire, Stage Three, Restoring Desire, Stage Four, Recreating Desire we will cover the definitions, the causes, and the treatment necessary for erotic recovery. In each of the Four Modules participants will learn interventions and tools that increase desire and improve arousal, increase pleasure and decrease anxiety around sexual performance and increase intimacy and connection.
Included in this course are videos of Dr. Tammy Nelson talking about each Stage of treatment, along with clips of her working with couples, as well as handouts and worksheets that participants can use with their clients, that detail clearly laid out interventions and dialogues to use in sessions along with homework for both individuals and couples, in each stage of treatment for problems that arise in each area.
Stage 1 - Reviving Desire in low sex relationships. With cases of diminished desire, we will cover the reasons for postponed pleasure and the resultant emotional distancing and the ways to treat these issues.
Stage 2 – Reframing Desire - Arousal – Increasing arousal in low interest, and sexually shut down marriages is possible in most cases with the right focus on increasing pleasure versus improving performance. We will cover pleasure disorders and ways to treat them.
Stage 3 - Restoring Desire – Relationships that focus on the trauma of betrayal need healing and specific steps to move toward erotic recovery, which can lead to improved connection and intimacy, even in severely shut down relationships. The steps to creating a new erotic relationship are covered in this module.
Stage 4 - Recreating Desire – means focusing on erotic curiosity and writing new sexier, monogamy agreements for long term connection. It is possible to recreate desire, even if it has been dormant for long periods of time.
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Outline
- Session 1: Introduction: How Desire is Lost & Found
- Session 2: Stage One: Reducing Denial
- Session 3: Stage Two: Reframing Resistance (Part 1)
- Session 4: Stage Two: Reframing Resistance (Part 2)
- Session 5: Stage Three: Reimaging Aversion (Part 1)
- Session 6: Stage Three: Reimaging Aversion (Part 2)
- Session 7: Stage Four: Recreating Relationship (Part 1)
- Session 8: Stage Four: Recreating Relationship (Part 2)
Target Audience
- Psychologists
- Physicians
- Addiction Counselors
- Counselors
- Social Workers
- Marriage & Family Therapists
- Nurses
- Other Behavioral Health Professionals
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage One: Reducing Denial
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage Two, Part 1: Reframing Resistance
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage Two, Part 2: Reframing Resistance
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage Three, Part 1: Reimaging Aversion
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage Three, Part 2: Reimaging Aversion
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage Four, Part 1: Recreating Relationship
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
Stage Four, Part 2: Recreating Relationship
Program Information
Objectives
- Analyze core interventions for renewing desire, reviewing strategies for low desire couples.
- Analyze treatment strategies and learn current paradigms for relationships with no sex couples.
- Analyze how sexual and couple’s therapy can help with past, and underlying causes for sexless relationships.
- Analyze the integrative cognitive, relational and physical issues that cause desire disorders and how they manifest in relationships.
- Assess for sexual traumas and integrate treatment priorities in a treatment plan focused on increasing desire.
- Assess how relaxation, sexual empathy and erotic recovery help to heal low sex and no sex relationships.
- Analyze at least three types of pleasure resistance; pleasure avoidance, denial, and rejection and how these lead to sexual discrepancies.
- Determine how control, betrayal, trust and identity issues affect eroticism in sexual partnerships.
- Determine treatment interventions for arousal dysfunction due to affairs and other betrayals.
- Evaluate erotic recovery, sexual empathy, and monogamy agreements as healing strategies.
- Determine how to create an erotic recovery plan as a psychotherapeutic treatment plan and intervention.
Copyright :
11/01/2019
The Rules of the New Monogamy: The Changing Face of Committed Relationships
More couples today than ever before are negotiating their monogamy in new and creative ways, including open marriage, polyamory, group marriages, transgender relationships, and a variety of intentional partnerships. As therapists, we need to understand these new developments, the challenges they bring, and the skills required of us to remain open and aware of our own triggers when addressing them. In this workshop, you’ll explore:
- How to help clients develop a code of integrity that will define their monogamy and develop their own unique shared definition of honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
- How to coach clients on negotiating flexible monogamy arrangements as well as how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity
Why open marriages work for some and fail for others—and how to identify the early problem signs and help couples recover when the arrangement isn’t working
Program Information
Target Audience
Psychologists, Physicians, Addiction Counselors, Counselors, Social Workers, Marriage & Family Therapists, Nurses, and other Behavioral Health Professionals
Outline
- Creating the New Monogamy Agreement
- The Explict and Implicit Agreement
- Renegotiating Rules of Monogamy Through Developmental Stages
- The Momogamy Continuum
- Thoughts
- Fantasy
- Desires
- Arousal
- Flirtation
- Emotions
- Action
- Connection
- Sex
- Love
- Detachment
- The New Normal
- Eroticism and Companionship
- What Couples Want May Be Changing
- Components of an Affair
- The Outside Emotional Relationship
- The Dishonesty
- The Sexual Relationship
- Steps in Recovery
- Creating Understanding
- Renegotiate Agreements
- Initiate Erotic Recovery
- Empathy in Recovery
- Two Elements in Couple Relationships
- Business of Relationship
- Sexual Aspects
- Create A New Vision of The Relationship
- Through Exploration and Discussion with Couples
- Outline for Both the New Vision of the Future
- Creating Agreement over Accepted Behaviors
Objectives
- Determine how to help clients develop a code of integrity that will define their monogamy and develop their own unique shared definition of honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
- Demonstrate how to coach clients on negotiating flexible monogamy arrangements as well as how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity
- Analyze why open marriages work for some and fail for others—and how to identify the early problem signs and help couples recover when the arrangement isn’t working
Copyright :
03/24/2017