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Digital Seminar

Couples on the Brink: When Is Enough Enough?


Average Rating:
   398
Faculty:
Terry Real, LICSW
Duration:
3 Hours 35 Minutes
Format:
Audio and Video
Copyright:
Mar 25, 2017
Product Code:
NOS052870
Media Type:
Digital Seminar - Also available: DVD


Description

We’ve all encountered couples for whom therapy is a last-ditch attempt before calling it quits. But how do we, as therapists, decide whether to throw our weight behind the relationship or let it end? This session explores the impact our own values, childhood experiences, and old family roles have on how we help couples answer this momentous question. Through case histories and discussion, you’ll focus on:

  • How to quickly get to the heart of the matter and articulate the couple’s stuckness, then reawaken warmth and closeness, helping them remember love and back off the ledge if possible
  • What to do when one partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • What to do when your own deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history

How to proceed when addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future or when there’s been betrayal or infidelity

 

Credit


* Credit Note - **

NOTE: Tuition includes one free CE Certificate (participant will be able to print the certificate of completion after completing and passing the on-line post-test evaluation). 

Continuing Education Information:  Listed below are the continuing education credit(s) currently available for this non-interactive self-study package. Please note, your state licensing board dictates whether self-study is an acceptable form of continuing education. Please refer to your state rules and regulations. If your profession is not listed, please contact your licensing board to determine your continuing education requirements and check for reciprocal approval. For other credit inquiries not specified below, please contact cepesi@pesi.com or 800-844-8260 before the event.

 

Materials that are included in this course may include interventions and modalities that are beyond the authorized practice of your profession.  As a licensed professional, you are responsible for reviewing the scope of practice, including activities that are defined in law as beyond the boundaries of practice in accordance with and in compliance with your profession's standards.

All members of the PESI, Inc. planning committee have provided disclosures of financial relationships with ineligible organizations and any relevant non-financial relationships prior to planning content for this activity. None of the committee members had relevant financial relationships with ineligible companies or other potentially biasing relationships to disclose to learners.  For speaker disclosures, please see the faculty biography.


Counselors - California Counselors

The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE programs that are approved by other approval agencies, including several that approve PESI and its programs.  A full list of approval agencies accepted by the BBS can be found at www.bbs.ca.gov/licensees/cont_ed.html under “Where to find CE Courses.” This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Counselors - Florida Counselors

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Clinical Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling. Provider Number 50-399. This course qualifies for 3.5 continuing education credits.


Counselors - Counselors

This self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction. Credit requirements and approvals vary per state board regulations. Please save the course outline, the certificate of completion you receive from the activity and contact your state board or organization to determine specific filing requirements.


Counselors - Montana Counselors

The Montana Board of Behavioral Health no longer pre-approves any courses or sponsors. Each licensee is responsible for taking courses which contribute to their competence and directly relate to their scope of practice as defined in board statute (MAR 24-219-32). Licensees must keep CE documentation for three years in case of an audit. This intermediate level self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of instruction.


Counselors - New York Counselors

PESI, Inc. is recognized by the New York State Education Department's (NYSED) State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for Licensed Mental Health Counselors. #MHC-0033. This self-study activity will qualify for 4.25 contact hours. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance. 


Counselors - Ohio Counselors

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage & Family Therapist Board. Provider approval #:RCST071001. Full attendance in this self-study course meets the qualifications for 3.5 clock hours of continuing education credit. 


Counselors - Pennsylvania Counselors Suicide ACT 74

3.5 clock hour(s) of this activity consists of continuing education instruction in the assessment, treatment and management of suicide risks.


Counselors - South Carolina Counselors

This self-study program has been approved for 3.5 continuing education hours by the South Carolina Board of Examiners for Licensure of Professional Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Psycho-Educational Specialists. Provider #4540.


Counselors - Texas Counselors

This self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction. Texas State Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors no longer approves programs or providers. PESI activities meet the continuing education requirements as listed in Title 22 Texas Administrative Code, Chapter 681, Subchapter J, Section 681.142 Acceptable Continuing Education. Please retain the certificate of completion that you receive and use as proof of completion when required.


Social Workers - Social Workers - National ASWB ACE

PESI, Inc., #1062, is approved as an ACE provider to offer social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) Approved Continuing Education (ACE) program. Regulatory boards are the final authority on courses accepted for continuing education credit. ACE provider approval period: January 27, 2023 - January 27, 2026. Social workers completing this course receive 3.5 Clinical continuing education credits.

 

Course Level: Intermediate Format: Recorded asynchronous distance. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance.

 

Canadian Social Workers: Canadian provinces may accept activities approved by the ASWB for ongoing professional development.


Social Workers - California Social Workers

The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE programs that are approved by other approval agencies, including several that approve PESI and its programs.  A full list of approval agencies accepted by the BBS can be found at www.bbs.ca.gov/licensees/cont_ed.html under “Where to find CE Courses.” This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 3.0 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Social Workers - Colorado Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Colorado Chapter of the National Association of Social Workers. Provider #1413. This self-study course has been approved for 4.3 continuing education hours. 

 

COLORADO PARTICIPANTS ONLY: If you did not answer YES to be reported to the Colorado Chapter of the NASW on the evaluation, please contact cepesi@pesi.com and provide the full title of the webcast, speaker name, date of live broadcast, your name and your license number in the email.

 


Social Workers - Florida Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Clinical Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling. Provider Number 50-399. This self-study course qualifies for 3.5 continuing education credits. 


Social Workers - Illinois Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Illinois, Department of Financial and Professional Regulation, Division of Professional Regulation. License #: 159-000154. Successful completion of this self-study activity qualifies for 3.5 contact hours.


Social Workers - Kansas Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Kansas Behavioral Sciences Regulatory Board. Provider #14-006. This self-study course has been approved for 3.5 continuing education hours.


Social Workers - Minnesota Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Minnesota, Board of Social Work. Provider #: CEP-140. This self-study package has been approved for 3.5 continuing education hours. This certificate has been issued upon successful completion of a post-test.


Social Workers - Montana Social Workers

The Montana Board of Behavioral Health no longer pre-approves any courses or sponsors. Each licensee is responsible for taking courses which contribute to their competence and directly relate to their scope of practice as defined in board statute (MAR 24-219-32). Licensees must keep CE documentation for three years in case of an audit. This intermediate level self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of instruction.


Social Workers - New York Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is recognized by the New York State Education Department's (NYSED) State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #SW-0008. This self-study activity will qualify for 4.25 contact hours. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance. 


Social Workers - Ohio Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage & Family Therapist Board. Provider approval #:RCST071001. Full attendance in this self-study course meets the qualifications for 3.5 clock hours of continuing education credit. 


Social Workers - Pennsylvania Social Workers

The Pennsylvania State Board of Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists and Professional Counselors accepts many national association CE approvals, several of which PESI offers. For a full list, please see your State Board regulations at https://www.dos.pa.gov/ProfessionalLicensing/BoardsCommissions/. This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Psychologists - Canadian Psychologists

PESI, Inc. is approved by the Canadian Psychological Association to offer continuing education for psychologists. PESI, Inc. maintains responsibility for the program. This program is approved for 3.5 self-study continuing education hours. Full credit statement at: www.pesi.com/cpa-statement


Psychologists - Florida Psychologists

PESI, Inc., is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Psychology.Provider Number #50-399.This product qualifies for 4.3 self-study continuing education credits.


Psychologists - Illinois Psychologists

PESI, Inc is an approved provider with the State of Illinois, Department of Professional Regulation. License #: 268.000102. Full attendance at this self-study course qualifies for 3.5 contact hours.


Psychologists - Kentucky Psychologists

PESI, Inc. is approved by the Kentucky Board of Examiners of Psychology to offer continuing education for psychologists. PESI maintains responsibility for this program and its content. This self-study activity will qualify for 3.5 contact hours.


Psychologists - Ohio Psychologists

PESI, Inc. is approved by the Ohio Psychological Association, Provider #263896894, to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. PESI, Inc. maintains responsibility for this program and its content. PESI is offering this self-study activity for 3.5 Standard hours of continuing education credit.


Psychologists - Pennsylvania Psychologists

PESI, Inc. is approved by the Pennsylvania State Board of Psychology to offer continuing education for psychologists. PESI maintains responsibility for the program(s). This self-study program qualifies for 3.5 continuing education hours.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Marriage & Family Therapists

This self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction. Credit requirements and approvals vary per state board regulations. Please save this course outline, the certificate of completion you receive from this self-study activity and contact your state board or organization to determine specific filing requirements. 


Marriage & Family Therapists - California Marriage & Family Therapists

The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE programs that are approved by other approval agencies, including several that approve PESI and its programs.  A full list of approval agencies accepted by the BBS can be found at www.bbs.ca.gov/licensees/cont_ed.html under “Where to find CE Courses.” This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 3.0 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Florida Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Clinical Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling. Provider Number 50-399. This self-study course qualifies for 3.5 continuing education credits.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Illinois Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. has been approved as a provider of continuing education by the State of Illinois, Department of Professional Regulation. Provider #:168-000156. Full attendance at this self-study activity qualifies for 3.5 credits.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Montana Marriage & Family Therapists

The Montana Board of Behavioral Health no longer pre-approves any courses or sponsors. Each licensee is responsible for taking courses which contribute to their competence and directly relate to their scope of practice as defined in board statute (MAR 24-219-32). Licensees must keep CE documentation for three years in case of an audit. This intermediate level self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of instruction.


Marriage & Family Therapists - New York Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is recognized by the New York State Education Department's (NYSED) State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists. #MFT-0024. This self-study activity will qualify for 4.25 contact hours. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance. 


Marriage & Family Therapists - Ohio Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage & Family Therapist Board. Provider approval #:RCST071001. Full attendance in this self-study course meets the qualifications for 3.5 clock hours of continuing education credit. 


Marriage & Family Therapists - Pennsylvania Marriage & Family Therapists

The Pennsylvania State Board of Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists and Professional Counselors accepts many national association CE approvals, several of which PESI offers. For a full list, please see your State Board regulations at https://www.dos.pa.gov/ProfessionalLicensing/BoardsCommissions. This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Marriage & Family Therapists - South Carolina Marriage & Family Therapists

This self-study program has been approved for 3.5 continuing education hours by the South Carolina Board of Examiners for Licensure of Professional Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Psycho-Educational Specialists. Provider #4540.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Texas Marriage & Family Therapists

This self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction. Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage and Family Therapists no longer approves programs or providers. PESI activities meet the continuing education requirements as listed in Title 22 of the Texas Administrative Code, Chapter 801, Subchapter K, Section 801.264 Types of Acceptable Continuing Education. Please retain the certificate of completion that you receive and use as proof of completion when required.


Addiction Counselors - California Alcoholism & Drug Abuse Counselors

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider by the CCAPP-EI, Provider #: OS-03-036-1025. This activity meets the qualifications for 3.5 CEH's (continuing education hours).


Addiction Counselors - California Alcoholism & Drug Abuse Counselors (CADTP)

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider by the CADTP, Provider #: 201. This Category H activity meets the qualifications for 3.5 CEU's (continuing education hours).


Addiction Counselors - Connecticut Addiction Counselors

Provider #120924. This course has been approved as a CCB approved training and has been awarded 3.5 hours by the Connecticut Certification Board.


Addiction Counselors - Addiction Counselors

NAADAC

This self-study course has been approved by PESI, Inc., as a NAADAC Approved Education Provider, for 3.5 CE in the Counseling Services skill group. NAADAC Provider #77553. PESI, Inc. is responsible for all aspects of their programming. Full attendance is required; no partial credit will be awarded for partial attendance.


Nurses - Nurses, Nurse Practitioners, and Clinical Nurse Specialists

This self-study activity consists of 3.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction. Credit requirements and approvals vary per state board regulations. Please save the course outline, the certificate of completion you receive from this self-study activity and contact your state board or organization to determine specific filing requirements.


Nurses - California Nurses

PESI, Inc. is a provider approved by the California Board of  Registered Nursing, Provider #: 17118 for 3.5 self-study contact hours. 

** You will need to provide your license number to PESI. PESI must have this number on file in order for your hours to be valid.


Nurses - Florida Nurses

CE Broker

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider by the Florida Board of  Nursing. Provider #: FBN2858. These materials qualify for 3.5 self-study contact hours.


Nurses - Iowa Nurses

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider by the Iowa Board of Nursing. Provider #: 346. Nurses successfully completing these self-study materials will earn 4.3 self-study contact hours. Please email cepesi@pesi.com with your license number, include the title, speaker name and date. PESI must have this number on file in order for your hours to be valid.


Educators, Teachers & School Professionals - California Licensed Educational Psychologists

The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE programs that are approved by other approval agencies, including several that approve PESI and its programs.  A full list of approval agencies accepted by the BBS can be found at www.bbs.ca.gov/licensees/cont_ed.html under “Where to find CE Courses.” This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 3.0 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Educators, Teachers & School Professionals - South Carolina Psycho-Educational Specialists

This self-study program has been approved for 3.5 continuing education hours by the South Carolina Board of Examiners for Licensure of Professional Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Psycho-Educational Specialists. Provider #4540.


Other Professionals

This self-study activity qualifies for 3.5 continuing education clock hours as required by many national, state and local licensing boards and professional organizations. Save your activity advertisement and certificate of completion, and contact your own board or organization for specific requirements.



Handouts

Faculty

Terry Real, LICSW's Profile

Terry Real, LICSW Related seminars and products

Private Practice


Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy – and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents to create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from “Good Morning America,” “The Today Show” and “20/20,” to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times book review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.​


Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute. He receives royalties as a published author. Terry Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.


Additional Info

Access for Self-Study (Non-Interactive) Access never expires for this product.

Target Audience

Psychologists, Physicians, Addiction Counselors, Counselors, Social Workers, Marriage & Family Therapists, Nurses, and other Behavioral Health Professionals

Outline

  1. Course of Treatment
    1. Step One
      1. Join with the Most Distant Partner
      2. Partners’ Positions Translate into Their Unique Dance
      3. Dance as the System Needing Treatment

 

  1. Join Through the Therapist’s “Truth”
    1. Confront the stable partner
    2. Preconditions for Intimacy
    3. Form alliances with each partner
    4. Step Two
      1. Negotiate a 3-4 Month Contract
      2. Base this on 180 degree Turnaround in Stable Partner
    5. Step Three
      1. Produce Palpable Change in the Stable Partner
  2. Three Phases of Treatment
    1. Waking Up
    2. Inner Child Work
    3. Learned Connection
  3. Using Therapeutic Intimacy
    1. Creating Alliance
    2. Appropriate Self Disclosure
    3. Working with Grandiosity
  4. Intimacy as a Spiritual Practice
    1. First and Second Consciousness
    2. Adaptive Child vs Functional Adult
    3. How Couples Mutually Trigger Their Positions
  5. Relational Recovery
    1. How to Bring the Functional Adult into Relationship
    2. Bottom Up and Top Down Healing
  6. Five Losing Strategies of The Adaptive Child
    1. Process of Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair
    2. Being Right, Controlling the Partner, Unbridled Self-Expression
    3. Retaliation, and Withdrawal
  7. The Relational Grid
    1. Self-esteem
    2. Grandiosity and Toxic Shame
    3. Full-Respect Living
    4. Boundaries
    5. Letter to the Adaptive Child
    6. How to Go After What You Want
    7. Improving Communication
  8. The Feedback Wheel
    1. Acknowledgement
    2. Experience
    3. Imaginings
    4. Feelings
    5. Desires
    6. Listening and Responding
    7. Teach the Couple to Hold Reality Lightly
    8. Develop Curiosity
    9. Respond with Generosity
    10. Cherish What You Have

Objectives

  • Focus on how to quickly get to the heart of the matter and articulate the couple’s stuckness, then reawaken warmth and closeness, helping them remember love and back off the ledge if possible
  • Focus on what to do when one partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • Focus on what to do when your own deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
  • Focus on how to proceed when addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future or when there’s been betrayal or infidelity

Reviews

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Overall:      4.7

Total Reviews: 398

Comments

Rosalyn N - boca raton, Florida

"Excellent course"

Catherine Q - CINCINNATI, Ohio

"Excellent! Thank you"

Joyce B - ARLINGTON, Texas

"Excellent presentation"

Ursula S - BELLINGHAM, Massachusetts

"Absolutely amazing, life-changing (and practice-changing) training!!"

Peggy-Sue F - Milford, Connecticut

"Can't wait to include my new awareness of the importance of addressing both grandiosity and shame, not just shame. Terry did an amazing job modeling how one might do this!"

Mark S - SYRACUSE, New York

"Very Very worthwhile!!"

Linda A - Westmont, Illinois

"Loved it! "

Arlene N - ALBANY, California

"excellent seminar. Learned a lot"

David C - Seattle, Washington

"Exceptional presentation"

Deb H - Sun Prairie, Wisconsin

"Best therapeutic approach I have ever seen! Terry Real is amazing!! I'm so grateful he overcame his family's legacy of dysfunction to do this work. It has been life transforming already. God bless him!"

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