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Digital Seminar

Breakthrough Results with Difficult Men: Terry Real on Working with Narcissists, Bullies, Boy-Men and Avoidants


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   459
Faculty:
Terry Real, LICSW |  Richard Simon, Ph.D.
Duration:
9 Hours 31 Minutes
Format:
Audio and Video
Copyright:
Nov 28, 2018
Product Code:
NOS095989
Media Type:
Digital Seminar


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Materials that are included in this course may include interventions and modalities that are beyond the authorized practice of your profession.  As a licensed professional, you are responsible for reviewing the scope of practice, including activities that are defined in law as beyond the boundaries of practice in accordance with and in compliance with your profession's standards.

All members of the PESI, Inc. planning committee have provided disclosures of financial relationships with ineligible organizations and any relevant non-financial relationships prior to planning content for this activity. None of the committee members had relevant financial relationships with ineligible companies or other potentially biasing relationships to disclose to learners.  For speaker disclosures, please see the faculty biography.


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Counselors - Nevada Counselors

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Counselors - Ohio Counselors

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage & Family Therapist Board. Provider approval #:RCST071001. Full attendance in this self-study course meets the qualifications for 9.5 clock hours of continuing education credit. 


Counselors - Pennsylvania Counselors

The Pennsylvania State Board of Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists and Professional Counselors accepts many national association CE approvals, several of which PESI offers. For a full list, please see your State Board regulations at https://www.dos.pa.gov/ProfessionalLicensing/BoardsCommissions/. This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Counselors - South Carolina Counselors

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Counselors - Texas Counselors

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Course Level: Intermediate Format: Recorded asynchronous distance. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance.

 

Canadian Social Workers: Canadian provinces may accept activities approved by the ASWB for ongoing professional development.


Social Workers - California Social Workers

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Social Workers - Florida Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Clinical Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling. Provider Number 50-399. This self-study course qualifies for 9.5 continuing education credits. 


Social Workers - Illinois Social Workers

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Social Workers - Minnesota Social Workers

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Social Workers - Montana Social Workers

The Montana Board of Behavioral Health no longer pre-approves any courses or sponsors. Each licensee is responsible for taking courses which contribute to their competence and directly relate to their scope of practice as defined in board statute (MAR 24-219-32). Licensees must keep CE documentation for three years in case of an audit. This intermediate level self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of instruction.


Social Workers - New York Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is recognized by the New York State Education Department's (NYSED) State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #SW-0008. This self-study activity will qualify for 11.25 contact hours. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance. 


Social Workers - Ohio Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage & Family Therapist Board. Provider approval #:RCST071001. Full attendance in this self-study course meets the qualifications for 9.5 clock hours of continuing education credit. 


Social Workers - Pennsylvania Social Workers

The Pennsylvania State Board of Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists and Professional Counselors accepts many national association CE approvals, several of which PESI offers. For a full list, please see your State Board regulations at https://www.dos.pa.gov/ProfessionalLicensing/BoardsCommissions/. This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


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Psychologists - Kentucky Psychologists

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Psychologists - Florida Psychologists

PESI, Inc., is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Psychology.Provider Number #50-399.This product qualifies for 9.5 self-study continuing education credits.


Psychologists - Psychologists

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Psychologists - New York Psychologists

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Psychologists - Ohio Psychologists

PESI, Inc. is approved by the Ohio Psychological Association, Provider #263896894, to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. PESI, Inc. maintains responsibility for this program and its content. PESI is offering this self-study activity for 9.5 Standard hours of continuing education credit.


Psychologists - Pennsylvania Psychologists

PESI, Inc. is approved by the Pennsylvania State Board of Psychology to offer continuing education for psychologists. PESI maintains responsibility for the program(s). This self-study program qualifies for 9.5 continuing education hours.


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The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE programs that are approved by other approval agencies, including several that approve PESI and its programs.  A full list of approval agencies accepted by the BBS can be found at www.bbs.ca.gov/licensees/cont_ed.html under “Where to find CE Courses.” This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 9.0 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Florida Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Clinical Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling. Provider Number 50-399. This self-study course qualifies for 9.5 continuing education credits.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Illinois Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. has been approved as a provider of continuing education by the State of Illinois, Department of Professional Regulation. Provider #:168-000156. Full attendance at this self-study activity qualifies for 9.5 credits.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Montana Marriage & Family Therapists

The Montana Board of Behavioral Health no longer pre-approves any courses or sponsors. Each licensee is responsible for taking courses which contribute to their competence and directly relate to their scope of practice as defined in board statute (MAR 24-219-32). Licensees must keep CE documentation for three years in case of an audit. This intermediate level self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of instruction.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Nevada Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is an approved CEU provider with the State of Nevada Board of Examiners for Marriage and Family Therapists and Clinical Professional Counselors. This self-study activity qualifies for 9.5 contact hours. Approved Provider # NVCEP2006.


Marriage & Family Therapists - New York Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is recognized by the New York State Education Department's (NYSED) State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists. #MFT-0024. This self-study activity will qualify for 11.25 contact hours. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance. 


Marriage & Family Therapists - Ohio Marriage & Family Therapists

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the State of Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage & Family Therapist Board. Provider approval #:RCST071001. Full attendance in this self-study course meets the qualifications for 9.5 clock hours of continuing education credit. 


Marriage & Family Therapists - Pennsylvania Marriage & Family Therapists

The Pennsylvania State Board of Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists and Professional Counselors accepts many national association CE approvals, several of which PESI offers. For a full list, please see your State Board regulations at https://www.dos.pa.gov/ProfessionalLicensing/BoardsCommissions. This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Marriage & Family Therapists - South Carolina Marriage & Family Therapists

This self-study program has been approved for 9.5 continuing education hours by the South Carolina Board of Examiners for Licensure of Professional Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Psycho-Educational Specialists. Provider #4540.


Marriage & Family Therapists - Texas Marriage & Family Therapists

This self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction. Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage and Family Therapists no longer approves programs or providers. PESI activities meet the continuing education requirements as listed in Title 22 of the Texas Administrative Code, Chapter 801, Subchapter K, Section 801.264 Types of Acceptable Continuing Education. Please retain the certificate of completion that you receive and use as proof of completion when required.


Addiction Counselors

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California Alcoholism & Drug Abuse Counselors (CADTP)

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Connecticut Addiction Counselors

Provider #120924. This course has been approved as a CCB approved training and has been awarded 9.5 hours by the Connecticut Certification Board.


Ohio Chemical Dependency Professionals

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Ohio Chemical Dependency Professionals Board. Provider Number 50-399. This self-study course qualifies for a total of 9.5 ceus in the area(s) of C2 - 9.5 hrs; P5 - 9.5 hrs.


Oklahoma Alcohol & Drug Counselors

PESI, Inc. is an Oklahoma Board of Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselors approved provider #20240032. This self-study activity consists of 9.5 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Educators

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New Jersey Educators, Administrators & Education Services Personnel

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Indiana Educators

9.0 Professional Growth Points are available for full attendance of this self-study package per the Indiana Department of Education standards.


Montana Educators

This self-study package is offered for 9.0 Renewal Units. PESI, Inc. is an Approved Renewal Unit Provider with the Montana Office of Public Instruction.


New York Educators

PESI, Inc. is an approved sponsor of CTLE with the New York State Education Department's (NYSED) Office of Teaching Initiatives. Provider #23567. This self-study activity will qualify for 9.5 Approved Continuing Teacher and Leader Education (CTLE) Hour(s), in the area of Pedagogy. Hours are based on full attendance. Board required certificates will be sent after the program.


Texas Educators

PESI, Inc., has been approved as a CPE Provider #500-981 for Texas Educators by the Texas State Board for Educator Certification (SBED). This self-study package qualifies for 9.5 CPE clock hours.


California Licensed Educational Psychologists

The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE programs that are approved by other approval agencies, including several that approve PESI and its programs.  A full list of approval agencies accepted by the BBS can be found at www.bbs.ca.gov/licensees/cont_ed.html under “Where to find CE Courses.” This intermediate level, self-study activity consists of 9.0 clock hours of continuing education instruction.


Nurses, Nurse Practitioners, and Clinical Nurse Specialists

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California Nurses

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Florida Nurses

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PESI, Inc. is an approved provider by the Florida Board of  Nursing. Provider #: FBN2858. These materials qualify for 9.5 self-study contact hours.


Iowa Nurses

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South Carolina Psycho-Educational Specialists

This self-study program has been approved for 9.5 continuing education hours by the South Carolina Board of Examiners for Licensure of Professional Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Psycho-Educational Specialists. Provider #4540.


Other Professionals

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Faculty

Terry Real, LICSW's Profile

Terry Real, LICSW Related seminars and products

Private Practice


Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy – and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents to create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from “Good Morning America,” “The Today Show” and “20/20,” to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times book review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.​


Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute. He receives royalties as a published author. Terry Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.


Richard Simon, Ph.D. Related seminars and products


Richard Simon, PhD, was a clinical psychologist and the late editor of Psychotherapy Networker, the most topical, timely, and widely read publication in the psychotherapy field. During his career, he received every major magazine industry honor, including the National Magazine Award.

 

Speaker Disclosures:

Financial: Rich Simon is the President of Psychotherapy Networker, Inc. and the editor of Psychotherapy Networker magazine. He is a published author and receives royalties. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

Non-financial: Rich Simon has no relevant non-financial relationships.
 


Outline

         Session 1 - Straight Talk, Hard Truths and An Open Heart

  • Evolution of masculinity – the challenge of power
  • Development of relational approach – relationship to psychodynamic therapy
    • Therapist as relational, self-disclosing individual
  • Addressing relative individual involvement in couple pathology
  • Traditional concepts of patriarchy – benefits of egalitarian relationships
  • Current trauma and neuropsychological approaches and limitations of the research in couples work
    • Adaptive approaches become counterproductive with age
  • Increasing intimacy and sensitivity without feminization 
    • Influence of culture and “me too” movement
    • Challenging myths of masculinity and femininity
  • Relational Life Therapy approach to managing male withdrawal and intimidation
    • Confronting grandiosity and privilege
    • Establishing leverage and power
    • Accepting intimacy and gains when offered
  • Primary types of difficult men – boy-man, bully, narcissist, avoidant
    • Gratification and relational joy
    • Pursuant-avoidant relational dynamic
  • Characteristics of effective Relational Life Therapy therapists – balancing power and nurturance

 

          Session 2 - An Abusive Bully Faces His Own Trauma

  • Working to increase intimacy
    • Dynamic of interaction – rage vs silence
    • Making realities collide
  • Evaluating relative positions – selecting specific points of intervention
    • Beginning with positive vision, evaluation of relational stance
    • Moving from complaint to request
  • Approaches to confrontation – preparing and asking permission
    • Addressing affective dissonance
    • Breaking up the dance – searching for something new
    • Monitoring reactions to confrontation – modulating affect
  • Diagnostic phase of interview – assessing reactions
    • Siding with conflicting perceptions
    • Role of therapist in session – necessity of personal investment
    • Reactive anger vs characterological anger
  • Control and dependency in abusive relationships
    • Roots in family of origin – adaptive nature of stance
    • Facilitating trust and open expression
    • Parallels with trauma work – empathic reversal
    • Impact of prior trauma on current relationship – role of abandonment feelings
  • Approaches to wounded child, adaptive child and functional adult roles
  • Basic phases of Relational Life Therapy – therapist stance
  • When one partner is damaged – adjunctive care options
  • Closing sessions – summary and closure

         Session 3 - A Shaming Dad Discovers a New Way to Parent  

  • Confronting hopelessness – identifying map for treatment
    • RLT is a post patriarchal therapy – deconstructing masculinity
  • Attending to two realities – identifying point of leverage and intervention
    • Therapist willingness to identify problematic behavior and take sides
  • Working effectively with grandiose individuals – confronting ego syntonic behaviors
    • Diagnosis and setting the stage for intervention
    • Identifying discord and negative aspects of parenting styles – costs of shaming
    • Forming alliance with the best part of the man – warm regard, logical presentation
  • Moving from observer to coach - preparing transition toward family of origin
    • Development of adaptive child role – reaction to power
    • Converting shame to grandiosity – central motif of masculinity
  • Authoritarian vs democratic parenting styles
    • Identification with abusive parent
  • Therapeutic and selective use of attunement, confrontation and nurturing
  • Dealing with the family pathology of toxic masculinity
  • Clarifying consequences – harsh realities delivered in the context of therapeutic alliance
  • Prescription of concrete skills and interactions
  • Therapist transparency – expression of emotion

Session 4 – A Selfish Boy-Man Gets a Lesson in Empathy 

  • Family of origin as source of dysfunction – avoiding blame
  • RLT diagnostic technique and pacing
  • Responding to negative interactions in session
    • Appropriate discrepancy to allow both alliance and change
    • Using attention to reinforce and compel engagement
  • Use of self in therapy – freedom of expression
    • Establishing trust with truth and authenticity
  • Video demonstration – implementing confrontation
    • Countering evasions, “slippery moves” from participants
    • Meeting momentum with countermomentum – making realities collide
    • Role of psychoeducation – developing concrete relational skills
  • Empathic reversal – identification with perpetrator
  • Using different language to speak to functional adult, adaptive child, wounded child
  • Three types of Narcissism – proper, hysterical, obsessive-compulsive
  • Language of the moment – the charm of precision
    • Effective confrontation
  • Privileged obliviousness – undoing patriarchy one couple at a time
    • Remedial empathy – sensitivity training
    • Acting as client agent
    • Gender differences in couple therapy
  • Closing therapy – relieving responsibility, offering confidence and hope
    • Follow up report – divorce proceedings

Session 5 – An Avoidant Man Learns to Show Up

  • Addressing avoidance in couple relationship
    • Establishing agreement about engaging in conflict
    • Family of origin influences – harsh and remote parenting as source of avoidance
  • Type 1 and 2 love avoidance – neglect vs enmeshment in family of origin
    • Reactivity to issues of control, judgement or contempt
  • Framing interventions to deepen connection and understanding
  • Unblending adaptive child from adult – empathy and self-disclosure
    • Normalizing the avoidant dynamic – seeking openness, new patterns
    • Facilitating adoption of new patterns of relationship – coaching
  • Negotiating a structure for effective communication
    • The four steps of the feedback wheel – occurrence, affect, cognition, request
  • Therapy pacing – moving through levels and modes of engagement
  • Types of resistant clients and methods of approach
  • Inner child work – connecting adaptive child with functional adult
    • Relationship between RLT and Internal Family Systems – shared and differing goals
    • Working with adaptive child vs wounded child – relational focus vs healing the inner child
  • Do’s and don’t’s of the RLT approach
    • Countering empathic reversal – caring for the wounded child
  • Type 1 and Type 2 love avoidant individuals – sources of threat
  • Addressing the wounded child – protection from the functional adult
  • Evaluating and sustaining gains – maintaining the energy

Objectives

  • Differentiate Relational Life Therapy from traditional couple therapy approaches.
  • Characterize the four primary styles of male dysfunction in couple relationships.
  • Prioritize adjunctive interventions when one partner is damaged by prior trauma.
  • Demonstrate each partner’s stance into their family of origin, working with childhood trauma in front of one another.
  • Effectively communicate treatment goals and necessary therapeutic steps to couples.
  • Discover how to have the confidence to trust your own intuition and training in a session with a couple.
  • Conceptualize traditional toxic masculinity and methods to counteract intergenerational transmission.
  • Prescribe concrete behavioral instructions to improve couple relationships and parenting skills
  • Identify the systemic dynamic, the repeating vicious circle, couples become stuck in.
  • Discriminate between the three types of narcissism and choose appropriate strategies of intervention.
  • Recognize each partner’s self-defeating stance (angry pursuer) and their contribution to the dynamic between them.
  • Anticipate negative reactions in therapy and structure responses that reinforce and compel engagement.
  • Use a psycho-educational approach to intimacy and precisely unearthing and prescribing what right would look like.
  • Categorize the parts of wounded child, adaptive child and functional adult and organize appropriate approaches to each.

Target Audience

  • Psychologists
  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Case Managers
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Nurses Educators
  • Other Mental Health Professionals

Reviews

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Overall:      4.8

Total Reviews: 459

Comments

Dorothy M - Santa Rosa, California

"Excellent course. Very useful and applicable. "

Susan K - Roma, Queensland

"I learned so much. Thank you."

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"Great course"

Russell S - PROVIDENCE, Utah

"One of the best presentations I have experienced in the past few years."

Brent G - POQUOSON, Virginia

"Loved it. Went on to buy more courses from Terry Real."

Sandra R - HOT SPRINGS, Arkansas

"Excellent! One of my favorite classes with Terry!"

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