A collection of readings for people who tend to lose themselves in others.
People think of you as the fixer, the people-pleaser, the “too nice” one. You know yourself to be a deeply caring, kind, and generous person – yet these qualities seem to somehow leave you feeling overextended, resentful, and unsure of who you are outside of your relationships.
This is the quiet cost of codependency.
Recovery begins with gently turning your attention inward.
You. Here. Today. is a collection of short, grounded reflections that invite you to connect with your authentic self, gently explore your relationships, and learn to trust your inner voice.
The compassion and insight in these pages serve as a retreat from the exhaustion of managing others’ feelings and needs, offering space to learn how to honor your needs, feelings, and boundaries.
Self-recovery is not about becoming less caring – it’s about learning to care for others without abandoning yourself.
Let these pages meet you where you are and gently guide you home: to the real you.
Nancy L. Johnston, MS, LPC, LSATP, MAC, NCC is a licensed professional counselor and licensed substance abuse treatment practitioner in private practice in Virginia, US. With 49 years of clinical experience, Nancy is master addiction counselor and an American Mental Health Counselors Association (AMCHA) diplomate in substance abuse and co-occurring Disorders.
She has authored four books on codependency: Disentangle: When You've Lost Your Self in Someone Else 2nd Edition (2020), My Life as a Border Collie: Freedom from Codependency (2012), The Clinician’s Codependency Treatment Workbook: 66 Self-Recovery Strategies for Clients Who Lose Themselves in Others (2024), and You. Here. Today. 200 Readings for Growth from Codependency to Self-Recovery (2026).
Nancy has digital seminars produced with PESI for clinicians on treating codependency, including “Codependence: Treatment Strategies for Clients Who Lose Themselves in Others” (2020), “The Codependency Treatment Guide: CBT, Somatic Strategies and More to Disentangle Clients from Dysfunctional Relationships and Recover Self” (2022), and “Advanced Codependency Treatment: A Complete Guide to CBT, Somatic, and Family of Origin Strategies to Disentangle Clients from Toxic Relationships and Recover Self” (2025).
Nancy offers online self-recovery workshops and delights in designing and facilitating Codependence Camp twice/year at a retreat site in Virginia, US. Codependence Camp has been in operation since 2004.
Over the past 26 years Nancy has presented at numerous conferences including the Cape Cod Symposium on Addictive Disorders, the Carolinas Conference for Addiction and Recovery, Addiction: Focus on Women, the Virginia Summer Institute for Addiction Studies, the American Mental Health Counselors Association’s Annual Conference, the Virginia Counselors Association’s Annual Conference, and Specialty Docket Training for the Virginia Supreme Court. She has been a faculty member for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium and the Ferentz Institute, and her work was included in a New York Times article on enmeshment in relationships.
Nancy writes from her country home on a river in Virginia, US. When she is not teaching or writing, she is enjoying extended time with family and friends, gardening, collaging, writing haiku, dancing, walking in the woods, and sitting by the river.
More information about Nancy and her work is available at her website: https://www.nancyljohnston.com/
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